Today, it's the first time that we have the Valentine's Day and the Chinese New Year on the same date in the last 57 years and we will only have the same occurrence 38 years later. Valentine's Day is no longer restricted to be a western custom, but is getting more popular in Hong Kong too. Whom you will celebrate your valentine day is a very important person to your life.
No matter you are engaged in a relationship or in a marriage, it’s the aspect of life which can easily make or break your life. Many stories either prove them to be lighting one’s life or breaking one’s heart. Some could go so emotional that one’s universe could only contain the other person one loved, with everything else out of the sight of the two people. “Love” could be used either in the right or wrong direction depending on whether it could provide additional life force to lift up all dynamics of one’s life. Is “love” a trap or a channel for more happiness, joy and freedom?
In fact, when we deal with another person, especially in such a close loving relationship, we are not meeting with that person alone. A person has many dynamics of life, including himself, group, mankind, the world, the physical universe, spiritual beingness, etc. besides the loving and sexual relationship. So when two people meet, they are meeting with their dynamics of life. It is a fact no matter whether you realize it or not. What conditions and how well each is doing on various aspect of life can greatly influence the condition and quality of the relationship.
An individual as a unit of human being, has his or her own rights of rationality, self-determinism, and rights of own goals and purposes in various dynamics of life. Though the individual may not know how to exercise or use his or her own rights, we have no right to deprive the person of his or her inherent rights.
When two people meet for a relationship, it should be something to help each other in enhancing but not suppressing the rights of each other. They are no longer working on other determinism but able to maintain one’s self determinism by pan-determinism; which is able to see the viewpoint of each other to find the best viewpoint for the interest of both parties. In other words, there are two heads, not one head only in the relationship. However, most of the time, we will easily lose our rights to each other as “love” is supposed to be expressed in this manner by many bad examples of people around us or one simply cannot control one's emotion or behavior with some strange ideas of using bad control in the relationship. "Love" can be used as a weapon of control to the other person rather than a platform for exchange of life force in abundance. Sooner or later, one cannot find anything one can admire from the other person in such relationship. No wonder why so many people do not really enjoy their relationship though they could not separate from each other for whatever reasons, or continue to break up relationship one after one.
Of course, one gets what one sees; and one only gets what one thinks should be. If one only wanted to use relationship to trap another person, one not only trapped another person but also being trapped.
It’s time to reveal what you really want from a relationship, how you can contribute to make this relationship happen and how both of you can enhance the life force with each other. By giving or allowing the rights to each other, you will set yourself and your partner free . And only then you can have a true loving relationship with admiration. Such relationship can be so powerful to uplift all aspects of your life to such a high level that you may not envision could possibly happen to both of you!
Happy Valentine's Day!
No matter you are engaged in a relationship or in a marriage, it’s the aspect of life which can easily make or break your life. Many stories either prove them to be lighting one’s life or breaking one’s heart. Some could go so emotional that one’s universe could only contain the other person one loved, with everything else out of the sight of the two people. “Love” could be used either in the right or wrong direction depending on whether it could provide additional life force to lift up all dynamics of one’s life. Is “love” a trap or a channel for more happiness, joy and freedom?
In fact, when we deal with another person, especially in such a close loving relationship, we are not meeting with that person alone. A person has many dynamics of life, including himself, group, mankind, the world, the physical universe, spiritual beingness, etc. besides the loving and sexual relationship. So when two people meet, they are meeting with their dynamics of life. It is a fact no matter whether you realize it or not. What conditions and how well each is doing on various aspect of life can greatly influence the condition and quality of the relationship.
An individual as a unit of human being, has his or her own rights of rationality, self-determinism, and rights of own goals and purposes in various dynamics of life. Though the individual may not know how to exercise or use his or her own rights, we have no right to deprive the person of his or her inherent rights.
When two people meet for a relationship, it should be something to help each other in enhancing but not suppressing the rights of each other. They are no longer working on other determinism but able to maintain one’s self determinism by pan-determinism; which is able to see the viewpoint of each other to find the best viewpoint for the interest of both parties. In other words, there are two heads, not one head only in the relationship. However, most of the time, we will easily lose our rights to each other as “love” is supposed to be expressed in this manner by many bad examples of people around us or one simply cannot control one's emotion or behavior with some strange ideas of using bad control in the relationship. "Love" can be used as a weapon of control to the other person rather than a platform for exchange of life force in abundance. Sooner or later, one cannot find anything one can admire from the other person in such relationship. No wonder why so many people do not really enjoy their relationship though they could not separate from each other for whatever reasons, or continue to break up relationship one after one.
Of course, one gets what one sees; and one only gets what one thinks should be. If one only wanted to use relationship to trap another person, one not only trapped another person but also being trapped.
It’s time to reveal what you really want from a relationship, how you can contribute to make this relationship happen and how both of you can enhance the life force with each other. By giving or allowing the rights to each other, you will set yourself and your partner free . And only then you can have a true loving relationship with admiration. Such relationship can be so powerful to uplift all aspects of your life to such a high level that you may not envision could possibly happen to both of you!
Happy Valentine's Day!
